Wednesday, June 29, 2005

Ask Banshee

What do you think about long distance relationships? Do you have any advice for people in such relationships?

~ The Asian Dude from Lost


Dear Asian Dude,

Wow, I can't believe a high profile celeb like yourself is asking Wild Banshee for advice. This is kind of an abstract question, so it's difficult to answer.

Based on everything that I have observed in life, long distance relationships are difficult to manage. Since one of the primary reasons for being in a relationship is to have someone to be with, the separation inherent in a long distance relationship will obviously present a difficulty. This is something you should think long and hard about if you are contemplating getting into a relationship with a chick on the other side of the country. I'm no saying that no one is worth it, but I am saying that you are asking for a bit of trouble at the outset.

However, sometimes separation in existing relationships is inevitable. And, just because separation must come does not mean that a relationship should necessarily end. Grad school, military service or a mid-season trade are all reasons that spring to mind. The Banshee values loyalty above almost all other qualities. So, I would certainly never advocate a break-up merely because a little geographical strain comes along.

One thing I will say definitively is this ... if you are contemplating marriage to someone with whom you are in a long distance relationship, it might be wise to make sure y'all live near each other for a while before taking the big leap. After all, getting along via phone and email is way different than putting up with each other's excentricities on a daily basis.

I hope that provides a little guidance.

~ Wild Banshee

If you have a burning question on your mind, please Ask Banshee.